Couples Therapy
A marriage saddled with 15 years of pain…
That’s where Stacy* and Mike* found themselves.
They wanted to save the marriage, so they decided to go to therapy. They didn’t know where to start, so they started with a therapist recommended by Mike’s friend at work.
But it wasn’t long before they realized she was too passive. The minute they started talking about their problems, they got into an argument about what the problems actually were. The therapist didn’t know what to do and lost control of the process, looking anxious as they argued.
So, that was a total dud. But Stacy learned something in the process – that Mike probably wouldn’t listen to a female therapist. Mike laughed bitterly at the notion, but he actually agreed.
So, they tried a different therapist.
It was a man, but he was the opposite of their first therapist. He was TOO aggressive.
He told them what to do and what not to do.
And he didn’t seem to be patient and emotionally supportive enough to sustain them through the difficult process of recovery.
Stacy and Mike were beginning to believe they wouldn’t find anyone skilled enough to help them.
That’s when they came to me.
They were hesitant to do couples therapy online, but after their free 15-minute consultation, they felt at ease and decided to take the plunge.
Here’s why it worked this time:
Trust
They could both speak openly and honestly about the state of their marriage. They had both done things they were ashamed of, but they could talk about it without feeling an ounce of judgment. Once they saw they could trust me, they felt confident that therapy was the right answer.
Communication
If you can’t do it right, there’s no hope for your relationship because you won’t be able to agree on the problem and address it. I gave them the skills to express their feelings and concerns respectfully and effectively – that is, without escalating into arguments, shouting, or silent treatment.
Goals
Couples need to be focused in the same direction and work together to get there. In the everyday bustle of life, that often gets lost. In therapy, we’ll make sure you have a vision for success and a plan to take you there. I’ll hold you accountable for making progress, but I’ll do it with kind eyes and a smile.
Education
Even the smartest, most educated people don’t know everything about relationships. You might not realize, for example, how much stress outside your relationship might be poisoning your business at home. I’ll show you how to take an interest and share in each other’s burdens.
Laughter
We’ll do exercises like role-playing different problems and situations. It can actually be a lot of fun, which is important for couples. Mike and Stacy got back in touch with the loving compassion they’d always had but lost sight of in the face of stress, aggravation, and arguments.
Let’s put YOUR relationship back on track.
You’ve both been hurt.
But you still love each other. You wouldn’t be here if you didn’t want to make it work.
Trust a professional to help you fix what matters most.
Give me a call. We’ll talk about what’s going on and how I can help during your free consultation: (757) 967-7342.